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 Prerequisite To Forgiveness 
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Joined: Sun Apr 02, 2017 11:37 am
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Found this nugget in the Twenty-Four Hours A Day Meditation Book and thought I'd share it:

    "I must overcome myself before I can truly forgive other people for injuries done to me. The self in me cannot forgive injuries. The very thought of wrongs means that my self is in the foreground. Since the self cannot forgive, I must overcome my selfishness. I must cease trying to forgive those who fretted and wronged me. It is a mistake for me even to think about these injuries. I must aim at overcoming myself in my daily life and then I will find there is nothing in me that remembers injury, because the only thing injured, my selfishness, is gone." May 3

Wed May 03, 2017 10:59 am

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Thanks for sharing this Janice. It sounds somewhat similar to my experience. My sick ego wants to sit above others morally and bestow forgiveness down on them when it suits it. It never seemed to make any difference when I thought "I grant you forgiveness" to another person for how I thought they wronged me. When I struggled with resentment, I found that other approaches helped: praying for the other person, imagining myself in their position, practicing empathy, remembering that all of us are sick each in our own ways, cutting all ties in the few instances where that was necessary, and setting good boundaries in the other cases. I was plagued with resentment toward my parents for many years, despite trying over and over to forgive them. Today I feel no resentment toward them and haven't for several years. When I think about what changed, forgiveness is not what comes to mind. I think of acceptance, empathy, love, and good boundaries. Most especially acceptance.

Wed May 03, 2017 5:33 pm
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